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Ray Pilgrim

Ray grew up with Disney having visited Disneyland several times as a kid, and Walt Disney World once. He had always had fond memories of the trips, but really became a Neurotic Disney Dad when he started to take his kids to the Disney Parks. His oldest child has Autism Spectrum Disorder. So taking his kids to Disney took a little more planning and some lessons learned the hard way. To help others, he and his wife have created Disney for Families with Autism Spectrum Disorder (WDWAutism.com) to help others plan their magical trips to Walt Disney World, Disneyland, and Disney Cruise Line. WDWAutism also has planning aides to help families prepare for their trips. Rachel and Ray also produce a weekly Disney Parks planning podcast called Mouse Travel Tips.

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HAVING THE “FORCE” ON STAR WARS WEEKEND

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We are a Star Wars family, as well as a Disney Family.  In fact I am more of a Star Wars fan than a Disney fan.  We have all the movies and more.  So Star Wars Weekend is a combination of two of my favorite things.  I love going to Star Wars Weekend as there is so much excitement for a Star Wars Fan.  However, if you have a special needs member in the group there are three big problems; crowds, lines, and hot weather (there’s not much to do about that but stay hydrated).  With a little planning you can do it, and here are some tips we learned on our last trip to Star Wars Weekend.

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MELTDOWN, IT’S GOING TO HAPPEN

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One thing I have learned from our trips to Walt Disney World is that, at some point, a meltdown is going to happen.  We can prepare and take steps to prevent them, but just be prepared for them to happen.  Sometimes, the reasons are not even apparent to you why it’s happening.  Knowing that it’s going to happen will help you to minimize or with luck stop them before it reaches the point of no return.

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ROAD TRIP

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We’re heading out to Walt Disney World in May.  Now, when we head out to WDW we normally drive for several reasons.  First, the cost of driving 5 people in a car is a lot cheaper than flying 5 people.  Second, we like driving through the country and looking at the scenery as we drive by.  Last, we have a son that just does not like to fly.

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WHY DISNEY IS MAGICAL

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As many of you know April is Autism Awareness Month.  Autism has affected many in our nation and is a growing crisis.  1 child out of every 150 is affected.  Autism is a neural disorder that affects three areas: communication, social skills, and cognitive development.  Autism can affect each person differently causing a wide spectrum.  Sometimes a person may seem odd while others may be non communicative.  Josh, our son, was diagnosed officially at age four with autism, even though we knew a long time before there was a problem.  We have a different challenge in our life, but we know that when we go to Disney as a family, we can have a magical time.

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A WATER PARK CONFESSION

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My family has been to Walt Disney World many times.  My kids are well versed in the different parks there.  However, I have a water park confession.  Despite the many times we have been there and the many different things we have done while there, we have never been to a water park.  I know it’s shocking, but we have not gone for several reasons. One reason was that they where young and, for me, I’m cheap and felt the resort pool was just as good as a water park. The second was that I felt it took time away from the parks.  However, the main reason was I was worried how Josh with his autism would react towards the water park.

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THERE’S A SNOW WHITE ATTRACTION, TOO

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My kids love Disney animated movies.  They grew up on them and continue to watch them over and over.  For children with autism they need predictability and familiarity. It’s had for them to process something new, so they look for what they know. Having watched many of the Disney movies has helped my son and daughter get ready to go to the Disney Parks.

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SPECIAL NEEDS SACRED SEVEN

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Part of the DDL culture is the Sacred Seven.  These are seven principles on how to enjoy the park.  As a “Neurotic Disney Father” I heartily agree with these Sacred Seven, but for my special needs son we have to adjust them.  Here are our Special Needs Sacred Seven:

  1. Thou shalt play only Disney music when en route to Disney.  For us it is a 18 hour drive to Walt Disney World so we definitely listen to music not only to get us ready but also to help the children to get used to the music at the park.  We have all sorts of music from attractions to shows.  We even play games to see if they can guess where the music is from.
  2. Thou shalt ride the monorail when in Disney.  Aside from being an awesome mode of transportation, it is an easy way for Josh to get to Magic Kingdom or Epcot in his special needs stroller.  No need to fold up the stroller, and we even have a ramp to help us get into the monorail.
  3. Thou shalt arrive at the theme park before the gate opens.  This is important for several reasons.  First, it sets the mood for the day with the opening show. The Magic Kingdom show just sprinkles pixie dust for the day.  The practical side being it’s less crowded, and we can get a lot done before everyone else decides to show up for the day.
  4. Thou shalt repeat a ride if you want to before you move on.  This is different from the DDL Sacred Seven where you shalt not repeat a ride until all are done.  However, for us it is easier to do a favorite attraction several times before we move on.  With the picture schedule Josh can know what the order is, but it is okay to do “It’s a Small Word” several times before we go on to a new one.  If we don’t get to them all, it’s okay.
  5. Thou shalt not reject a ride until you get an idea of what it is.  A little different from the normal Sacred Seven where you can’t reject until you experience.  However, for special needs parents it helps to know what type of attractions your child can do or doesn’t like.  Not all attractions are good for Josh, and we have learned that the hard way.  However, with youtube you can get an idea of the attractions, and your child can even watch.  Nothing says fun like when your child decides it’s time to get off of the attraction midway through.  So, if you know the attraction is not for your special needs family member, go ahead and reject it.  There will be time for you to come back and try again.
  6. Thou shalt be photographed with Mickey Mouse at Disney, and Mickey needs to know how you are special.  There is nothing like meeting Mickey and his friends; however, to make it special for everyone, talk to Mickey’s guide to let him know.  Josh is very tactile and loves to touch. Once when we visited with Goofy, we told his guide about Josh and his touching.  She yelled out to Goofy, “Hey Goofy, we have a lover.”  Goofy knew what it meant, and they both had a great time.
  7. Thou shalt leave before it is too late.  When I say too late, I mean before everyone is too tired and overwhelmed.  Better to go before the point of no return for meltdowns.  When it’s just me, I love being there late after a lot of people have left.  With Josh we may have to leave early and take a break.  We can come back after he’s refreshed and ready to do more. We try to do as much as we can, but if we don’t get it done, it’s all right.  The park isn’t going anywhere.
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“CLUB” CAN BE A GOOD WORD

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Recently the Disney Cruise Line christened their brand new cruise ship, and it looks amazing.  We have not been on it yet, but we aspire to go on it.  We have had the opportunity to take a seven day cruise on the Disney Magic.  Before we had kids and became Neurotic Disney Fans, Rachel and I were cruisers but never a Disney Cruiser.  Well, then the kids came. We wanted to take a cruise, but we had to wait until they were old enough so we could throw them in the kids club and go off and have fun ourselves.

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WHERE CAN I GO FOR PEACE?

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One universal truth about Disney is that it can get loud and busy.  There are some slower times of the years, but even then it can still get crowded.  Special needs children, normal children, and just about everyone can get overwhelmed.  There can be times where you just need a break from the magic.  The smart thing is go back to the resort, and take a break.  However, this is not always possible.

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WOULD YOU LIKE SOME HONEY WITH YOUR QUEUE?

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Walt Disney World has been busy lately with construction in the Magic Kingdom, and it has not all been on new Princess attractions.  They just recently improved the queue to the Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh.  The queue is now an interactive queue for children of all ages.

First they increased the theming with more storybook pages on other items from the Hundred Acres Woods.  Along the queue there is a garden play area where pesky gophers can be found in the garden by either jumping on bouncing spots or playing tug of war with a gopher.  There are also musical vegetables that can be pounded on.   The queue is situated so that as a parent waits, the kids, both big and small, can play.

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PICTURE GALLERY FOR CHILDREN WITH AUTISM

Even though my son Joshua looks normal for an eight year old, he has autism and is very limited verbally.  He is also a veteran of the Walt Disney World parks.  He knows what he wants to do, but he gets frustrated when he can’t communicate his desires to us at the parks.  To help with this we have created a picture schedule of the park attractions, which can be found at www.wdwautism.com in the planning section.  While this pre-printed page was helpful, it was still one more thing that we had to bring with us into the park.

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